100 Things I Know #3 – Sacrifice (Somehow) Is At The Heart of Love

  Love is the pursuit of the highest good of and for the other. (It was Thomas Merton’s work that first gave me these words.) This must necessarily come into conflict with our own desires and pursuits.   The needs and desires of the other must, at some point, trump our own needs and desires.   The …

Marriage and Aesthetic Unity

When I typed the title of this post, I had to reconsider.  Really?  Marriage and aesthetic unity?   What I mean by aesthetic unity as in what emerges from a strong work of art or a successful theatre production, an attribute of a production's ruling idea, metaphor, or concept, so that all the choices being …

Wordle on Love and Marriage

I decided to do a Wordle of yesterday's blog post on my 30 years of marriage.  If you just look at it and make random sentences, you still get the idea.  My only beef is the word "really" is way too big, which means I used it way too many times.  I really have to …

Thirty Years of Marriage

Some celebrations are better done in quiet.  I don't mean as in keeping them a secret--I mean as in keeping the voice down, much as you do when you enter a sanctuary.  Pasts are sanctuaries of a kind, especially those that contain so much love, so much intimacy, so much shared understanding of our fallen …