100 Things I Know #3 – Sacrifice (Somehow) Is At The Heart of Love

  Love is the pursuit of the highest good of and for the other. (It was Thomas Merton’s work that first gave me these words.) This must necessarily come into conflict with our own desires and pursuits.   The needs and desires of the other must, at some point, trump our own needs and desires.   The …

Acting 101: For All of Us

Here’s what actors do, in one way or another.  Imaginatively, they work to enter the experience of a person, a character, imagining circumstances, beliefs, thought-life, sensory preferences, histories of relationships, and perhaps most importantly, what their particular characters are hungry for, long for, and have been living without.   They then shift their physical and emotional …

Marriage and Aesthetic Unity

When I typed the title of this post, I had to reconsider.  Really?  Marriage and aesthetic unity?   What I mean by aesthetic unity as in what emerges from a strong work of art or a successful theatre production, an attribute of a production's ruling idea, metaphor, or concept, so that all the choices being …

A Few Thoughts on The Art of Conversation

So Friday night I got together with a few friends for intentional conversation, and the topic was...well, conversation.   We asked questions like, "If you've just had a great conversation with someone, what were the things that made for the greatness of the time?"  "What are conversation killers?"  "What do you expect when you enter …

How to Pray

The disciples wondered how to pray, and asked Jesus to teach them.  The gospel of Matthew records the version of Jesus' reply we know as The Lord's Prayer.   Simple, direct, covers all the bases; praise, petition, and ascribing appropriate glory.   Paul says plainly, "Pray continually" or more famously, "without ceasing."      And …

Thirty Years of Marriage

Some celebrations are better done in quiet.  I don't mean as in keeping them a secret--I mean as in keeping the voice down, much as you do when you enter a sanctuary.  Pasts are sanctuaries of a kind, especially those that contain so much love, so much intimacy, so much shared understanding of our fallen …